As a former Playboy Executive, publisher, and private investigator I thought I knew all there was to know about women and masculinity. But I was wrong.

I was sure I knew how to handle relationships after decades of being surrounded by the most beautiful women in the world — some of whom I dated without any need of pick up techniques or advice. I’m not particularity rich or handsome but I did OK. But then things went sideways and I’d realized my experience had some holes and times have definitely changed!

You may feel this way too. Or, have trouble in today’s dating arena what with radical feminism, the #metoo movement, girl power and social media that gives women a 10-1 advantage over men. So searching for satisfying relationships becomes a chore instead of a joy that often leads you down a depressing rabbit hole of insecurity.

This is where I can help. … not more pick up artist (PUA) or “game” bull, this is straight talk from me, a guy who has made the same mistakes as you but has learned some hard lessons about myself — and women — who by their very nature are different from us … VERY different. And as much as we try we’ll never fully understand why they do what they do. We can only ground our own masculinity and love ourselves.